How To Make Masturbation Feel Better
“Masturbating doesn’t have to be an awkward or uncomfortable experience, but sometimes it can feel like that’s just what it is. Whether you’ve been masturbating since before you were old enough to understand what was happening or are someone who has never even considered doing so, there may come a point where you wonder if you’ll ever be able to get off without feeling embarrassed or ashamed.
If this sounds all too familiar, don’t worry! We know exactly how you feel — we’ve been there ourselves. It can certainly take some time to develop confidence with masturbation, especially when you’re starting out. But we think one of the best things you can do for yourself is to create a safe environment that allows you to explore your sexuality without worrying about judgment from others. If you’re not sure how to go about making this happen, here are some ideas:
Create a space and a context that make you feel comfortable and excited. Get yourself in the mood. Explore different ways of turning yourself on. Wear something that makes you feel sexy. Use mirrors. Buy yourself a new toy.
Don’t use masturbation as punishment. You might find yourself thinking “”I’m going to masturbate now because I did such and such”” — instead of using it as a way of letting yourself off the hook or punishing yourself for some real transgression. This will only lead to frustration. Instead, see it as a positive thing: A chance to indulge yourself, treat yourself well, and give yourself pleasure.
Be patient with yourself. Masturbation takes time and persistence. Don’t expect to orgasm within minutes of getting started; try focusing on something other than orgasm during those first few times. Learn more about yourself through masturbation — learn everything you can about your body, its response to sexual stimulation, and what feels good (and does not).
Avoid comparing your masturbation experiences with other people. There’s no reason why you should think about your masturbation sessions with any kind of expectation; compare them to whatever works for you, and focus on the positives.
Ease up on yourself if you start to become overly focused on the act itself. Many women report that they tend to obsess over their arousal levels and orgasmic abilities while men often focus on visual details (like the appearance of their erection) rather than sensations. Both approaches can work equally well, but if you notice that you’re becoming preoccupied with these factors then it might be worth trying to refocus on other aspects of your session.
Take care of your hygiene. Keep clean after masturbation by showering thoroughly and taking proper care of your genitals. Also consider visiting a doctor if you have concerns about sexually transmitted infections (STIs), vaginal discharge, or painful intercourse.
Know that masturbation won’t always be perfect. Some days you’ll want to jerk yourself off, while other days you’ll want nothing more than to spend the day relaxing at home. Accept that both kinds of days exist and plan accordingly.
The key is to remember that masturbation is a form of self-care: The right mindset can make a big difference in how much you’re able to enjoy masturbation. So embrace your solo sex practice for the healthy habit it is, and keep these tips in mind whenever you need it most.
Do you struggle with masturbation? What tricks and techniques have helped you cope with those moments when it seems impossible to climax? Share your thoughts below…
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