How Often Should You Masterbate.
“I’ve been masturbating since I was 10 years old. The first time, it was accidental and painful but the pleasure outweighed the pain and soon after I started doing it regularly. When you are young there is no one around to tell you how often to masterbate and most people don’t even know what it means let alone do it themselves. My parents never talked about sex or masturbation at all. They just said “don’t touch yourself in front of anyone else” so naturally I did not. It wasn’t until college when my roommate told me about her sexual experiences with guys she had dated that I learned how much pleasure can come from self-pleasure. At first I thought she was making up stories about being with these guys but over time as I gave into temptation, I found out for myself.
After finding out about this new sensation I became obsessed with trying to make it work every day. My mind would go over and over the same thoughts, which eventually led to anxiety attacks and depression. Eventually I stopped masturbating altogether because I didn’t want to deal with the side effects of constantly thinking about sex and cumming.
When I finally got back on track, I realized something important. Masturbation isn’t about having an orgasm. Masturbation should be enjoyed for its own sake without any expectations. If your goal is to get off every time then maybe you need help. Here are some tips to keep in mind if you’re still struggling.
1. Don’t compare yourself to others – Everyone has different body chemistry and everyone’s bodies respond differently to stimulation. There are only statistics available on women, so we’ll talk about those. For example, here are the results of a study done on women’s masturbation habits conducted by a German gynecologist named Dr. Herrmann Nies (who incidentally also discovered penicillin). He surveyed 2,000 women between 18 and 65 years of age and asked them questions about their masturbation habits.
The average woman masturbated 11 times per week while the median number for lesbians was 0. Women who masturbated less than once a week had twice the risk of developing breast cancer compared to women who masturbated daily. Those women who reported they masturbated 1-3 times weekly had 30% greater chance of getting breast cancer compared to women who masturbated 4+ times weekly.
2. Be consistent – Once you’ve decided to take control of your sexuality, focus on one thing at a time. This will ensure that you won’t feel overwhelmed by too many things happening at once. Once you’ve mastered one technique, move onto the next.
3. Start small – One way to stay focused is to start slow. With other areas of life like dieting or exercising, it’s easier to lose momentum if you try to change everything overnight. Instead, break down larger goals into smaller ones and build upon each success. Over time you’ll start seeing success and before long you’ll find yourself reaching for bigger challenges.
4. Keep a journal – Keeping a diary can help you through rough patches during your journey. Use it to write down all of your successes and failures as well as your feelings about what works best for you. Also use it to record your moods throughout the day. These insights can help you identify patterns and figure out what really turns you on.
5. Find a partner – Having someone to share your experience with makes it easier to enjoy the process without worrying about whether you’re pleasing yourself correctly. Plus, you’ll have someone to hold you accountable.
6. Get comfortable with your body – Learning how to touch yourself properly takes time and practice. Start with simple movements and slowly progress toward more complex techniques. Learn from books, web sites, videos and audio programs, magazines, movies and porno films, whatever feels right for you! Just remember that masturbation is completely private so keep it away from prying eyes unless you live with another person.
7. Take breaks – Masturbation shouldn’t become compulsive behavior. Make sure you allow yourself to relax and recharge your batteries. In the end, you’ll reap better rewards if you spend more time building intimacy with your significant other rather than spending hours jerking off.
8. Have fun – Masturbation shouldn’t be seen as a chore or an obligation. Treat it like you would treat anything else that brings you joy and happiness.
9. Avoid distractions – Many people say they “”can’t concentrate”” on their computers or phones when they’d prefer to be masturbating. Turn off your phone, put on some music, dim the lights, and close the door. You might even consider buying a vibrator that can be used discreetly anywhere.
10. Know when to stop – A lot of people think they should continue masturbating until they reach climax but this may cause problems later on. Remember, masturbation isn’t supposed to lead to orgasm; it’s purely sensual and intended to provide mental relief. Masturbating beyond arousal leads to soreness, dry skin, and exhaustion.
11. Clean up afterwards – Some people like to leave dirty underwear lying around the house. Others prefer to shower immediately afterward. Do whatever is easiest for you. The point is to prevent bacteria from growing in your vagina or anus and spreading to other parts of your body.
12. Experiment with toys – Sex toys aren’t just for women! Men can use them too and can add a whole new level of excitement to masturbation. Toys are great for beginners because you can use them in ways that feel natural to you. Try using your fingers (or a dildo) to stimulate the base of the penis. Or use a toy on the clitoris. Look for toys made specifically for anal play. They usually look similar to rectal douches and are designed to cleanse the colon.
13. Don’t rush – Masturbation doesn’t happen over night. Sometimes it takes longer to achieve orgasm than other times. Enjoy the ride and give yourself plenty of time to savor the moment. Your reward is worth waiting for!
14. Change positions often – Changing position can bring entirely new sensations. Try sitting, standing, laying down, and kneeling. You can even lie on your stomach and prop your head up on pillows.
15. Use lubricant – Silicone lubes are recommended because they’re thick enough to create friction yet thin enough to spread easily. Liquid lubes tend to run when you apply them so they’re harder to keep where you want them. Both types of lube are safe to use however, especially silicone lubes which can last for extended periods of time.
16. Take care of your health – Masturbation is healthy but it can hurt your overall health if you abuse it. If you notice signs of infection such as discharge, stinging, burning, red rashes, swelling, fever, or excessive bleeding, consult your doctor. Other symptoms include headaches, fatigue, nausea, dizziness, and abdominal discomfort. So please, take good care of yourself.
17. Set boundaries – You should also set limits for masturbation because it can become addictive. Establish a schedule when you will masturbate and stick to it. Tell friends and family members that you plan to masturbate and ask them not to interrupt you. Limit your screen time and limit your access to pornography.
18. Stay present – Focus on your current situation instead of dwelling on past mistakes or future worries. Concentrate on the feeling generated within your body.
19. Respect your limitations – Never force yourself to try something you don’t want to do. Listen to your intuition and follow your instincts.
20. Communicate with your partner – Share your desires and fantasies with your partner. Talk about your masturbation routine in order to spice things up.
21. Give yourself permission – Masturbate because you want to and not because you feel guilty. Feel free to experiment with new things.
22. Don’t judge – Masturbation shouldn’t be judged based on societal standards. It’s completely personal and nobody knows what feels best for you except you.
23. Practice mindfulness – Meditation can be very helpful for helping you cope with stress. By focusing on your breathing, you can calm your racing mind and relieve tension.
24. Embrace your emotions – Accept and embrace all of your feelings including shame, guilt, fear, anger, sadness, and frustration. Understand that these feelings are normal and part of becoming human.
25. Let go of your attachments – As humans we attach ourselves to our minds, emotions, and bodies. We cling tightly to our possessions and refuse to let go until our loved ones die. We see this attachment as love. But sometimes it becomes unhealthy and causes us unnecessary suffering. When we attach ourselves to our fears and anxieties, we become enslaved to them. When we understand the nature of attachment, we can start letting go.
26. Appreciate your body – Recognize all of your physical strengths and weaknesses. Allow yourself to grow and develop.
27. Laugh and smile – Laughter can release pent up frustrations, stresses, and tensions. Smile whenever possible as it helps increase serotonin levels in your brain. Serotonin plays a key role in regulating sleep cycles and appetite. So laugh more and smile more.
28. Be patient – Masturb”
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